You are doing your best, but it’s a jungle out there

The foster care system gets a lot of negative coverage. The good news hardly ever hits the headlights. We don’t hear about the efforts of those who work in the field to help and educate parents, who continuously search for funding so that services would not collapse. We don’t hear about those amazing families who become fierce in their efforts to help the kids in their homes. Good people are working hard to make it all better.

The way the system works right now sets most of its players into a hard place; “I’m doing my best but the cracks are often too many.” The social worker who in good faith thought she/he had the full file; the child needed a therapeutic home and is now placed with an unprepared young couple. The parents who did not recognize the signs of stress on time; tired out, exhausted and without support the only solution seems to be letting go of the child who is out of control. The scenarios are numerous, the outcome the same; “I thought I had it all under control but I did not see that train coming!”

This work is not for the faint hearted. You are taking care of the most vulnerable ones in the society. Due to the climate of political back and forth the system does not fully support anyone. We just have to do our best, and stay connected with each other. When that nagging feeling comes along, that one that lingers in your throat and wakes you up at night, it’s time to make a call. Call for support. Call for guidance. Email, call, fax, text, and send out the smoke signals that something is not right, something does not fit, and my current family is growing weary.

The process of becoming foster or adoptive parent can be extremely rewarding and it will build up your strength as a parent. Learn to ask questions, voice your concerns, get a third party like FLO to support you if you feel like the experience is making you dizzy. We will map you out, see where you are at and set you on your way. We will get you connected before the candle has turned into a blowtorch. Your well being and sense of calm is the first gift you can offer to your new family member.

Stay Safe,

Marja

Family&Youth Support Specialist
Individual, youth and family counseling is now available through FLO. Drop me an email if you'd like to schedule some time, or call at 206-441-4602, Ext 2

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